From the Family Class Blog:

The Effects of Divorce On Children, Part One

The Effects of Divorce On Children, Part Two

I was particularly interested in this paragraph from part two (emphasis mine):

In her book Between Two Worlds, Elizabeth Marquardt states that “a ‘good divorce’ compares poorly even to an unhappy marriage, so long as that marriage is low-conflict.” A national survey taken shows that 2/3 of divorces result from low-conflict marriages; another shows that 86% of low-conflict couples who decided to stick it out found that their marriages were much stronger and happier five years later, but above all, they were still married (Waite and Gallagher The Case for Marriage, pages 145-148). If these low-conflict couples stayed together and worked out their problems, statistically they have an outstanding chance that their marriages will last and become better with time.

Marquardt’s book has sparked a lot of discussion about the damaging effects of divorces from low-conflict marriages. I haven’t read her book yet but am eager to. I just need to finish the one I’m working on, which is “Second Chances” by Judith Wallerstein. I often wonder how different things would be if they had never passed the no-fault divorce law. That law makes divorce more accessible for those low-conflict marriages and I believe as a result struggling couples often see divorce as an “easy out.” It’s when the smoke clears that we all see that is far from the truth.

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